Divorce, Sin or Not?

I'm finally going to address this subject and allow people to look it straight in the face!

Question number one! Show me where in the bible it says divorce is a sin?

Is it listed with liars, or anything else? Yes, it says if you divorce for the cause of fornication, to be a male whore or female whore, then it's wrong! It says that for the wrong reasons you can be guilty of adultery and cause your spouse to be ineligible to marry again. But for other earthly reasons, it's not a sin.

Let me continue by saying this, God knows the heart! Remember what it says in God's word, no sin is unpardonable except blasphemy against the Holy Spirit!

He knew when he created Adam and Eve that nothing was perfect after they sinned! That brought into the world every emotion you can imagine that takes place between a man and a woman! Before that, they were so naive that nothing I think could have come between them because Eve would have been the perfect biblical example of a wife!

Yes, not too many people think about it that way or may realize how God setup His order of paradise until Satan messed it up for Him!

So now, man and woman were and are at odds with each other through sin! That forbidden fruit in my opinion was the liberation of the women from the perfect God ordained submissive wife to her husband in a perfect world!

Now, in the situation of two people not getting along, if one files for divorce, it's still not a sin! What matters is who is it that signs the final paper to end the marriage? Yes, that's right, it's called accountability! We are all accountable before God and if God doesn't prick your conscience and you're the final signitor or signee on the divorce papers, you are the guilty one. You see, if we are following God's ways and guidelines and before we sign anything we get direction from the Lord to repent of our selfishness or whatever it is that is causing us to be the unforgiving spouse, the bitter spouse, the vengeful spouse etc. then we can regain our footing and change directions! Now I don't want to leave out the factor that both parties have to be willing to look to God on their hands and knees for the right direction to remain married.

Now let me reference the bible verses...

Mark 10:4-12
And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. 5And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. 6But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. 7For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 8And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. 9What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

10And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. 11And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
Okay, we're back to accountability here. Notice in Mark 10:4-12 in the end, whoever does the putting away is the one who is guilty of adultery!

Matthew 19:7-11

7They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. 9And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

10His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. 11But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

Matthew 19:7-11 This makes clear that unless a woman is put away for the cause of adultery, it is not justified. Also, it makes clear that if you marry a woman who has been put away, not for the cause of adultery, then she has to remain single in order to accommodate the scripture that says reconciliation needs to be available for any situation like this! If you want to know about reconciliation do a search on it. I don't want to cover it here because it is lengthy!

Matthew 5:31-32

31It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: 32But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Here again we're dealing with the same as the previous scripture in Matthew 19:7-11.

Mark 10:2 Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, "Is it ...

10And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. 11And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
Here again it's the putting away of the other!


1 Corinthians 7:10,11


10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

Here is the catch all that God has impressed upon my heart!
1 Corinthians 7:12-16

12But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 15But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. 16For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
Here's why! If you are in a marriage, and you file for and sign the final papers for divorce, you are acting like a non-believer and therefore your spouse is free to marry another in the Lord. God has called us to peace. He doesn't desire that any should be unhappy if it means suffering through singularity of life, and especially if there are children involved. 

1 Corinthians 7:27 - 29

27Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. 29But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;

1st Corinthians 7:27-29 Spells out the fact that God would rather have us serving HIM with singularity of heart, than to be preoccupied with having a spouse and only being able to partly serve God.


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