Divorce, Sin or Not?

I'm finally going to address this subject and allow people to look it straight in the face!

Question number one! 

Show me where in the bible it says divorce is a sin?

Is it listed with liars, or anything else? 

Yes, it says if you divorce for the cause of fornication, to be a male whore or female whore, then it's wrong! 

It says that for the wrong reasons you can be guilty of adultery and cause your spouse to be ineligible to marry again. But for other earthly reasons, it's not a sin.

Let me continue by saying this, God knows the heart! 

Remember what it says in God's word, no sin is unpardonable except blasphemy against the Holy Spirit!

He knew when he created Adam and Eve that nothing was perfect after they sinned! That brought into the world every emotion you can imagine that takes place between a man and a woman!

Before that, they were so naive that nothing I think could have come between them because Eve would have been the perfect biblical example of a wife!

Yes, not too many people think about it that way or may realize how God setup His order of paradise until Satan messed it up for Him!

So now, man and woman were, and are at odds with each other through sin! 

That forbidden fruit in my opinion was the liberation of the women from the perfect God ordained submissive wife to her husband in a perfect world!

Now, in the situation of two people not getting along, if one files for divorce, it's still not a sin for the defensive person. 

What matters is who is it that signs the final paper to end the marriage? They will be accountable to God!

Yes, that's right, it's called accountability! 

We are all accountable before God, and if God doesn't prick your conscience and you're the final signitor or signee on the divorce papers, you are the guilty one. You see, if we are following God's ways and guidelines and before we sign anything we get direction from the Lord to repent of our selfishness or whatever it is that is causing us to be the unforgiving spouse, the bitter spouse, the vengeful spouse etc. then we can regain our footing and change directions! 

Now I don't want to leave out the factor that both parties have to be willing to look to God on their knees for the right direction to remain married.

For reference before we dive into this subject:

fornication  noun

for·​ni·​ca·​tion ˌfȯr-nə-ˈkā-shən 
: consensual (see consensual sense 2) sexual intercourse between two persons not married to each other
compare adultery

adultery noun

adul·​tery ə-ˈdəl-t(ə-)rē 
plural adulteries
: voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than that person's current spouse or partner

Now let me reference the bible verses...

Mark 10:4-12
And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. 5 And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. 6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. 7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. 9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. 11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

Okay, we're back to accountability here. Notice in Mark 10:4-12 in the end, whoever does the putting away is the one who is guilty of adultery!

Ask yourself a question now before going on, Is there a difference between committing adultery and just plain fornication?
See these references: 1-Corinthians-6-18, 1-Corinthians-5-1, 1-Thessalonians-4-3,

I have a real problem already here, read this: Galatians-5-19 - Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, 20Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, 21Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like:

I have always been under the impression that adultery was having a physical alteration sexually with a married woman and fornication was only having sex with an un-married woman, yet...?

Was Paul confused when he wrote to the Corinthians and said this?
1 It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife.

1st Corinthians-7-2 says: 1Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
In the old testament in Levitcus it says this:
Leviticus 20:10
And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.

Ezekiel 16:32  32But as a wife that committeth adultery, which taketh strangers instead of her husband!

Matthew 19:7-11 Makes clear that unless a woman is put away for the cause of adultery, it is not justified. Also, it makes clear that if you marry a woman who has been put away, not for the cause of adultery, then she has to remain single in order to accommodate the scripture that says reconciliation needs to be available for any situation like this! If you want to know about reconciliation do a search on it. I don't want to cover it here because it is lengthy!

Matthew 5:31-32

31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Here again we're dealing with the same as the previous scripture in Matthew 19:7-11.

Mark 10:2 Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, "Is it ...

10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. 11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

Here again it's the putting away of the other!

 1 Corinthians 7:10,11

10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

Here is the catch all that God has impressed upon my heart!

1 Corinthians 7:12-16
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. 16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

Here's why! If you are in a marriage, and you file for and sign the final papers for divorce, you are acting like a non-believer and therefore your spouse is free to marry another in the Lord.

God has called us to peace. He doesn't desire that any should be unhappy if it means suffering through singularity of life, and especially if there are children involved. 

1 Corinthians 7:27 - 29

27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. 29 But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;

1st Corinthians 7:27-29 Spells out the fact that God would rather have us serving HIM with singularity of heart, than to be preoccupied with having a spouse and only being able to partly serve God.

My hope for you is that you have had a prayer of salvation,
and if you haven't and you want to ask Christ into your heart and life,
then I offer these words for you to repeat,
but only if your heart is sincere,
because God knows it if you're not.


Dear God, I now know I have needed you and have
rejected your calling, so today, right now, 
I ask Jesus Christ to come into my heart and my life, 
and forgive me from all past sin and Lord cleanse me 
from my unrighteousness. I believe that Jesus was 
crucified for my sin, died, and was buried and rose from the
dead according to the scriptures. I want you forever more
to be my guide and I want to follow you as a believer. 
I ask for your strength to change my heart and 
my earthly ways so that I can become a better 
child in your kingdom. Show me how to depend 
on you in all things. And show me how to do 
your will in my life. I thank you and pray this 
prayer in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen!

Aug 6th 2015 Rev 20