Husband and Wife Relations



There is so much mystery in human behavior.
 
Think about this, there's a reason for everything!

It's called proper order!

Jesus Christ set the example in everything. However, through the Holy Ghost we are able to connect with God our father in real time. 

God created man in His image, there's a reason. 

There's a reason He created the order of authority and the order of creation in order to keep everything in balance. 

God through Jesus describes the proper balance that is supposed to take place according to how He inspired the chosen disciples to write His word in an order and sequence that could be understood.

Now understand this, no matter what your situation is, God uses our adversity to train us up in a way that will bring glory to His kingdom and most important, faith to His children.  It's only through faith that we can please God.

Why do we have to go through  adversity? 

Can you learn anything living in a comfort zone,? or does diversity and struggle teach you better?

So no matter what your situation, there will be trials and tribulation through adversity.

What I want to emphasize at this point is, if your single, God brings adversity, if your married, God brings adversity.

There's a big problem between men and women. God made women as a help meet for their husbands. There are many situations where God communicates through man's wives in order to teach men that God made the woman to be a help meet and that includes direction from Him from a Godly woman! Read what Peter taught! This applying to both men and women, but you men pay attention to verse 7!

This is 1st Peter 1:1-7 - Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. 7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

So men, don't ignore or discount the advice or opinions that you receive from your wives, it is very important we seriously consider the information we get from our help meet. In many cases, God will use your wife to lead you, and the reason is because He wants your wife to feel appreciated and loved, but also He wants to show you that if she is a Godly woman, He wants us to realize the fact that two become one in His eyes, and so your wife is one with you which means that God will use both of you in an equal way.

We need to always reverence our wives. This is how we make them feel equal and appreciated by us.

I speak from experience. Now, that being said, wives, I send a message out to you, don't nag and don't irritate and cause your husband agony if he doesn't listen to you right away, becasue there are times when God will use your husband to teach you through adversity also. And this is when both husband and wife need patience and prayer! Remeber these verses above?

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

The exact moment you feel that your husband is acting stupid or making decisions that are foolish or contrary to your personal feelings is when you need to turn to God with patience and pray. 

Let me ask you this, if you weren't married, would you be having problems somewhere in your decision making process?

It's very hard for us to suffer through the process of others who are making decisions that affect our lives, especially if we feel a different way or think we have a better way or feel we're right and they're wrong.

How about employers who do it? How about politicians who do it? How about other situations where we are affected by others decisions that impact our lives?

It's only because we live with our spouses that we can complain against them for poor decision making. 

Can we realize that patience and faith are built through adversity. So if your husbands or your wives don't make a decision that you think they should, and it causes you to have to learn through adversity, let it cause you to turn to Christ and pray that His will is being worked out in your lives. Not to sound chauvinistic but, God made man and then He made the woman for the man.

Eve sinned and then she through whatever means, tricked, conned, fooled, or used sexual influence against Adam to get him to eat the forbidden fruit.

Is there a resonating behavior that is prominent in the female genes that causes the same kind of influence whether by guilt laid on their husbands, or through  the idea that, if you love me, you won't make me suffer from your decisions?

God says to the women that you are supposed to reverence your husbands. As Sarah, who called Abraham lord. When a man feels he has lost control of the family through passiveness or defiance of his help meet, He is out of control and left in a state of anxiety as to what he should do in important situations that will have a devastating affect on the marriage.

Women need to be patient and loving, even through situations which do not turn out according to your expectations, because of your husbands decisions. Read my page on expectations! Expectations

YouTube Video


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This video on the right is often how the marriage relationship goes!

You can watch this and have a good laugh because the comedian is a Christian Comedian and he simulates how a lot of non-Christian marriages are!

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God made man to lead the family, and you should reverence that authority that he was given by God, because it's not always a joy for us men to be the final decision maker in difficult times.

Be careful, God made man in His image, if you deny that, you just might be denying God's authority too.


Here is how we should approach our spouses, this devotional spells it out magnificently!

GOD FIRST

Put God First in Trust. "Jesus did not commit Himself unto them ... for He knew what was in man."


John 2:24-25

http://www.BibleStudyTools.com/search/?query=joh+2:24-25+&sr=1

Our Lord trusted no man; yet He was never suspicious, never bitter, never in despair about any man, because He put God first in trust; He trusted absolutely in what God's grace could do for any man. If I put my trust in human beings first, I will end in despairing of everyone; I will become bitter, because I have insisted on man being what no man ever can be - absolutely right. Never trust anything but the grace of God in yourself or in anyone else.

Put God's Needs First. "Lo, I come to do Thy will, O God." Hebrews 10:9

A man's obedience is to what he sees to be a need; Our Lord's obedience was to the will of His Father. The cry to-day is - "We must get some work to do; the heathen are dying without God; we must go and tell them of Him." We have to see first of all that God's needs in us personally are being met. "Tarry ye until. . . ." The purpose of this College is to get us rightly related to the needs of God. When God's needs in us have been met, then He will open the way for us to realize His needs elsewhere.

Put God's Trust First. "And whoso receiveth one such little child in my name receiveth Me." Matthew 18:5

God's trust is that He gives me Himself as a babe. God expects my personal life to be a "Bethlehem." Am I allowing my natural life to
be slowly transfigured by the indwelling life of the Son of God? God's ultimate purpose is that His Son might be manifested in my mortal flesh.

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My hope for you is that you have had a prayer of salvation,
and if you haven't and you want to ask Christ into your heart and life,
then I offer these words for you to repeat,
but only if your heart is sincere,
because God knows it if you're not.
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Dear God, I now know I have needed you and have
rejected your calling, so today, right now, 
I ask Jesus Christ to come into my heart and my life, 
and forgive me from all past sin and Lord cleanse me 
from my unrighteousness. I believe that Jesus was 
crucified for my sin, died, and was buried and rose from
the dead according to the scriptures. I want you forever more
to be my guide and I want to follow you as a believer. 
I ask for your strength to change my heart and 
my earthly ways so that I can become a better 
child in your kingdom. Show me how to depend 
on you in all things. And show me how to do 
your will in my life. I thank you and pray this 
prayer in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen!



December 16th, 2011 1:55am
 
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