Husband and Wife Relations

There is so much mystery in human behavior. Jesus Christ set the example in everything. However, through
the Holy Ghost we are able to connect with God our father in real time. God created man in His image, there's a reason. There's a reason He created the order of authority and the order of creation in order to keep everything in balance. God through Jesus describes the proper balance that is supposed to take place according to how He inspired the chosen disciples to write His word in an order and sequence that could be understood.

Now understand this, no matter what your situation is, God uses our adversity to train us up in a way that will bring glory to His kingdom and most important, faith to His children.  It's only through faith that we can please God.

Why do we have to go through  adversity? 

Can you learn anything living in a comfort zone?

So no matter what your situation, there will be trials and tribulation through adversity.

What I want to emphasize at this point is, if your single, God brings adversity, if your married, God brings adversity.

Here's a big problem. God made women as a help meet for their husbands. There are many situations where God communicates through man's wives in order to teach men that God made the woman to be a help meet and that includes direction from Him from a Godly woman!

So men, don't ignore or discount the advice or opinions that you receive from your wives, it is very important we seriously consider the information we get from our help meet. In many cases, God will use your wife to lead you, and the reason is because He wants your wife to feel appreciated and loved, but also He wants to show you that if she is a Godly woman, He wants us to realize the fact that two become one in His eyes, and so your wife is one with you which means that God will use both of you in an equal way.

We need to always reverence our wives.

This is how we make them feel equal and appreciated by us.

So I speak from experience. Now, that being said, wives, I send a message out to you, don't nag and don't agonize your husband if he doesn't listen to you. but, also, there are times when God will use your husband to teach you through adversity.

This is the exact moment you feel that your husband is acting stupid or making decisions that are foolish or contrary to your personal feelings. Let me ask you this, if you weren't married, would you be having problems somewhere in your decision making process?

It's very hard for us to suffer through the process of others who are making decisions that affect our lives.

How about employers who do it? How about politicians who do it? How about other situations where we are affected by others decisions that impact our lives?

It's only because we live with our spouses that we can complain against them for poor decision making. Can we realize that patience and faith are built through adversity. So if your husbands or your wives don't make a decision that you think they should, and it causes you to have to learn through adversity, let it cause you to turn to Christ and pray that His will is being worked out in your lives. Not to sound chauvinistic but, God made man and then He made the woman for the man. Eve sinned and then she through whatever means, tricked, conned, fooled, or used sexual influence against Adam to get him to eat the forbidden fruit.

Is there a resonating behavior that is prominent in the female genes that causes the same kind of influence whether by guilt laid on their husbands, or through  the idea that, if you love me, you won't make me suffer from your decisions?

God says to the women that you are supposed to reverence your husbands. As Sarah, who called Abraham lord. When a man looses control of the family through passiveness or defiance of his help meet, He is out of control and left in a state of anxiety as to what he should do in important situations that will have a devastating affect on the marriage.

Women need to be patient and loving, even through situations which do not turn out according to your expectations, because of your husbands decisions.

God made man to lead the family, and you should reverence that authority that was God given.

Be careful, God made man in His image, if you deny that, you just might be denying God's authority too.

Here is how we should approach our spouses, this devotional spells it out magnificently!


Put God First in Trust. "Jesus did not commit Himself unto them ... for He knew what was in man."

John 2:24-25

Our Lord trusted no man; yet He was never suspicious, never bitter, never in despair about any man, because He put God first in trust; He trusted absolutely in what God's grace could do for any man. If I put my trust in human beings first, I will end in despairing of everyone; I will become bitter, because I have insisted on man being what no man ever can be - absolutely right. Never trust anything but the grace of God in yourself or in anyone else.

Put God's Needs First. "Lo, I come to do Thy will, O God." Hebrews 10:9

A man's obedience is to what he sees to be a need; Our Lord's obedience was to the will of His Father. The cry to-day is - "We must get some work to do; the heathen are dying without God; we must go and tell them of Him." We have to see first of all that God's needs in us personally are being met. "Tarry ye until. . . ." The purpose of this College is to get us rightly related to the needs of God. When God's needs in us have been met, then He will open the way for us to realize His needs elsewhere.

Put God's Trust First. "And whoso receiveth one such little child in my name receiveth Me." Matthew 18:5

God's trust is that He gives me Himself as a babe. God expects my personal life to be a "Bethlehem." Am I allowing my natural life to
be slowly transfigured by the indwelling life of the Son of God? God's ultimate purpose is that His Son might be manifested in my mortal flesh.
December 16th, 2011 - 9 rev.