Islam vs Christianity, Marriage Covenant

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

65|1|O Prophet (SAW)! When you divorce women, divorce them at their 'Iddah (prescribed periods), and count (accurately) their 'Iddah (periods). And fear Allah your Lord (O Muslims), and turn them not out of their (husband's) homes, nor shall they (themselves) leave, except in case they are guilty of some open illegal sexual intercourse. And those are the set limits of Allah. And whosoever transgresses the set limits of Allah, then indeed he has wronged himself. You (the one who divorces his wife) know not, it may be that Allah will afterward bring some new thing to pass (i.e. to return her back to you if that was the first or second divorce).

65|2|Then when they are about to fulfil their term appointed, either take them back in a good manner or part with them in a good manner. And take for witness two just persons from among you (Muslims). And establish the witness for Allah. That will be an admonition given to him who believes in Allah and the Last Day. And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty).

65|3|And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allah will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allah has set a measure for all things.

65|4|And those of your women as have passed the age of monthly courses, for them the 'Iddah (prescribed period), if you have doubts (about their periods), is three months, and for those who have no courses [(i.e. they are still immature) their 'Iddah (prescribed period) is three months likewise, except in case of death]. And for those who are pregnant (whether they are divorced or their husbands are dead), their 'Iddah (prescribed period) is until they deliver (their burdens), and whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make his matter easy for him.

65|5|That is the Command of Allah, which He has sent down to you, and whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will remit his sins from him, and will enlarge his reward.

65|6|Lodge them (the divorced women) where you dwell, according to your means, and do not treat them in such a harmful way that they be obliged to leave. And if they are pregnant, then spend on them till they deliver. Then if they give suck to the children for you, give them their due payment, and let each of you accept the advice of the other in a just way. But if you make difficulties for one another, then some other woman may give suck for him (the father of the child).

65|7|Let the rich man spend according to his means, and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allah has given him. Allah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him. Allah will grant after hardship, ease.

--------------- Surat 4:3-9,12,15-25,34-37,127-130 ----------------

4|3|And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan-girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (the captives and the slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice.

4|4|And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart, but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allah has made it lawful).

4|5|And give not unto the foolish your property which Allah has made a means of support for you, but feed and clothe them therewith, and speak to them words of kindness and justice.

4|6|And try orphans (as regards their intelligence) until they reach the age of marriage; if then you find sound judgement in them, release their property to them, but consume it not wastefully, and hastily fearing that they should grow up, and whoever amongst guardians is rich, he should take no wages, but if he is poor, let him have for himself what is just and reasonable (according to his work). And when you release their property to them, take witness in their presence; and Allah is All-Sufficient in taking account.

4|7|There is a share for men and a share for women from what is left by parents and those nearest related, whether, the property be small or large - a legal share.

4|8|And when the relatives and the orphans and Al-Masakin (the poor) are present at the time of division, give them out of the property, and speak to them words of kindness and justice.

4|9|And let those (executors and guardians) have the same fear in their minds as they would have for their own, if they had left weak offspring behind. So let them fear Allah and speak right words.

4|12|In that which your wives leave, your share is a half if they have no child; but if they leave a child, you get a fourth of that which they leave after payment of legacies that they may have bequeathed or debts. In that which you leave, their (your wives) share is a fourth if you leave no child; but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts. If the man or woman whose inheritance is in question has left neither ascendants nor descendants, but has left a brother or a sister, each one of the two gets a sixth; but if more than two, they share in a third; after payment of lagacies he (or she) may have bequeathed or debts, so that no loss is caused (to anyone). This is a Commandment from Allah; and Allah is Ever All-Knowing, Most-Forbearing.

4|15|And those of your women who commit illegal sexual intercourse, take the evidence of four witnesses from amongst you against them; and if they testify, confine them (i.e. women) to houses until death comes to them or Allah ordains for them some (other) way.

4|16|And the two persons (man and woman) among you who commit illegal sexual intercourse, punish them both. And if they repent (promise Allah that they will never repeat, i.e. commit illegal sexual intercourse and other similar sins) and do righteous good deeds, leave them alone. Surely, Allah is Ever the One Who accepts repentance, (and He is) Most Merciful.

4|17|Allah accepts only the repentance of those who do evil in ignorance and foolishness and repent soon afterwards; it is they to whom Allah will forgive and Allah is Ever All-Knower, All-Wise.

4|18|And of no effect is the repentance of those who continue to do evil deeds until death faces one of them and he says: "Now I repent;" nor of those who die while they are disbelievers. For them We have prepared a painful torment.

4|19|O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the Mahr you have given them, unless they commit open illegal sexual intercourse. And live with them honourably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.

4|20|But if you intend to replace a wife by another and you have given one of them a Cantar (of gold i.e. a great amount) as Mahr, take not the least bit of it back; would you take it wrongfully without a right and (with) a manifest sin?

4|21|And how could you take it (back) while you have gone in unto each other, and they have taken from you a firm and strong covenant?

4|22|And marry not women whom your fathers married, except what has already passed; indeed it was shameful and most hateful, and an evil way.

4|23|Forbidden to you (for marriage) are: your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your foster mother who gave you suck, your foster milk suckling sisters, your wives' mothers, your step daughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom you have gone in - but there is no sin on you if you have not gone in them (to marry their daughters), - the wives of your sons who (spring) from your own loins, and two sisters in wedlock at the same time, except for what has already passed; verily, Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

4|24|Also (forbidden are) women already married, except those (captives and slaves) whom your right hands possess. Thus has Allah ordained for you. All others are lawful, provided you seek (them in marriage) with Mahr (bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) from your property, desiring chastity, not committing illegal sexual intercourse, so with those of whom you have enjoyed sexual relations, give them their Mahr as prescribed; but if after a Mahr is prescribed, you agree mutually (to give more), there is no sin on you. Surely, Allah is Ever All-Knowing, All-Wise.

4|25|And whoever of you have not the means wherewith to wed free, believing women, they may wed believing girls from among those (captives and slaves) whom your right hands possess, and Allah has full knowledge about your Faith, you are one from another. Wed them with the permission of their own folk (guardians, Auliya' or masters) and give them their Mahr according to what is reasonable; they (the above said captive and slave-girls) should be chaste, not adulterous, nor taking boy-friends. And after they have been taken in wedlock, if they commit illegal sexual intercourse, their punishment is half that for free (unmarried) women. This is for him among you who is afraid of being harmed in his religion or in his body; but it is better for you that you practise self-restraint, and Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

4|34|Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.

4|35|If you fear a breach between them twain (the man and his wife), appoint (two) arbitrators, one from his family and the other from her's; if they both wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation. Indeed Allah is Ever All-Knower, Well-Acquainted with all things.

4|36|Worship Allah and join none with Him in worship, and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, Al-Masakin (the poor), the neighbour who is near of kin, the neighbour who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (you meet), and those (slaves) whom your right hands possess. Verily, Allah does not like such as are proud and boastful;

4|37|Those who are miserly and enjoin miserliness on other men and hide what Allah has bestowed upon them of His Bounties. And We have prepared for the disbelievers a disgraceful torment.

4|127|They ask your legal instruction concerning women, say: Allah instructs you about them, and about what is recited unto you in the Book concerning the orphan girls whom you give not the prescribed portions (as regards Mahr and inheritance) and yet whom you desire to marry, and (concerning) the children who are weak and oppressed, and that you stand firm for justice to orphans. And whatever good you do, Allah is Ever All-Aware of it.

4|128|And if a woman fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part, there is no sin on them both if they make terms of peace between themselves; and making peace is better. And human inner-selves are swayed by greed. But if you do good and keep away from evil, verily, Allah is Ever Well-Acquainted with what you do.

4|129|You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e. neither divorced nor married). And if you do justice, and do all that is right and fear Allah by keeping away from all that is wrong, then Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

4|130|But if they separate (by divorce), Allah will provide abundance for everyone of them from His Bounty. And Allah is Ever All-Sufficient for His creatures' need, All-Wise.


These are the guidelines for marriage from the bible!

--------------------- Proverbs 18:22 KJV --------------------------

22) Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord .

------------------------ Romans 7:1-4 KJV --------------------------

1) Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 

2) For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 

3) So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. 

4) Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.

------------------- 1 Corinthians 7:6-16 KJV -----------------------

6) But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.  

7) For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 

8) I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. 

9) But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. 

10) And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 

11) But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. 

12) But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 

13) And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 

14) For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 

15) But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. 

16) For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

--------------------- Ephesians 5:22-33 KJV ----------------------

22) Wives
, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 

23) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 

24) Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 

25) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 

26) That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 

27) That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 

28) So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 

29) For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 

30) For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 

31) For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 

32) This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 

33) Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

---------------- Colossians 3:15-21, 23-25 KJV -----------------------

15) eAnd let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful. 

16) Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. 

17) And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. 

18) Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. 

19) Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

20)  Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. 

21) Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

23) And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; 

24) Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ. 

25) But he that doeth wrong shall receive for the wrong which he hath done: and there is no respect of persons.

------------------------ Hebrews 13:4 KJV ------------------------

4) Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.


------------------------ 1 Peter 3:1-11 KJV ---------------------------

1) Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 

2) While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 

3) Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 

4) But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 

5) For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 

6) Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. 

7) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 

8) Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: 

9) Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. 

10) For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:  

11) Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.

--------------------Proverbs 31:10-14, 16-31 KJV---------------------

10) Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.  

11) The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.  

12) She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.  She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.  

13) She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar. 

14) She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

15) She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

16) She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

17) She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. 

18) She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. 

19) She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. 

20) She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

21) She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.  

22) She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.  

23) Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.  

24) She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.  

25) Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.  

26) She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. 

27) She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. 

28) Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

29) Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. 

30) Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord , she shall be praised. 

31) Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

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