Expectations Yikes!

Expectations, are they a good thing, or are they an evil emotion?

Expectations are a device of the devil! 

They are an unknown evil and just about rank in the same category as pride, and they definitely cause offense when they shouldn't!

From the beginning did God have expectations for his creation? 

Did he all knowingly expect the creation made in his image to obey him?

Did He expect Eve to betray his commands about the tree in the middle of the garden?

Did He expect the world in the life of Adam and Eve to stay the way He created it?

We all had unconscious expectations I think from the time we exited our mother's womb and we didn't even know it. We expected to be taken care of, fed, loved, nourished, clothed etc. etc.

Now as we grew up we always hoped according to our expectations didn't we?  We from a child were given certain hopes for the future and I'm pretty sure most of us expected them to culminate. Yet, read the dictionary's definition of this term.

Expectation:  The act of expecting. b. Eager anticipation 2. The state of being expected 3.a Something expected b. expectations. Prospects, esp. of success or gain. 4. statistics a. the expected values of a random variable. b. the mean of a random variable.

Now, my opinion is that these very last two definitions, are the ones we should remember to apply. For every expectation is in fact, a variable!

I think about expectations we so easily set, for those of whom are about to render a service to us, that we have solicited or paid for. In this realm we certainly can expect to be treated as a valued customer, or an appreciated person, or a paying client who in essence should get the most for his money.

Is this really the case, and how many of us have come away from that situation in disillusionment, offense and anger?

Back to the personal relationships that develop in our lives. We expect our loved ones to act a certain way, whether it is how we expect our loving parents to treat us or act, or our brother or sister to act. How many times are we let down?

If you are a wife or a husband, don't set expectations for your spouse. You married them and they are who they are. If something bugs you, while you may find a good time to mention it to them just so they are aware of it. That is as far as you should go. After that, you better be in prayer and hope your spouse paid attention enough to pray about it to God themselves, and ask for help to change and ease the tension between you and them.

We are not supposed to try to change our spouses behavior, it has to be submitted to God, and the Holy Spirit will bring about a loving change in them. Marriages are broken when one or the other spouse insists on getting their way!
Marriages were made in heaven and that's where the focus has to stay.

You see, we need to reflect on the human condition! Given the fact that according to God's word, we are all born into sin, have a sinful nature from the start, how does this ramification play out in our lives. Everything we are, is learned. So the old adage, we are a product of our environment is pretty accurate isn't it?

James gave us a good look into this in His word. 

NIV SB James 4:13-15 Some of you say, "Today or tomorrow we will go to some city. We will stay there a year, do business, and make money." But you do not know what will happen tomorrow! 

Your life is like a mist. You can see it for a short time, but then it goes away. 15 So you should say, "If the Lord wants, we will live and do this or that." 16 But now you are proud and you brag. All of this bragging is wrong. 17 And when a person knows the right thing to do, but does not do it, then he is sinning.

There's another subject for another time, that last verse.

Knowing what the right thing to do is the question?

We need to apply this to our expectations, how you say? The right thing to do is not to have expectations in most, if not all circumstances. Everything is in God's hands, and we are to be as forgiving, and loving, and easy going as Jesus was.

Yet, we expect the sinful nature of man, to be good all the time. We expect humankind to act in a way that may have not been a learned experience in their lives. We know the psychology of being a product of our surroundings and environment. That is why there are results of research so readily available about the percentage of people who will fall into the same rut, or way of life their parents were in.

By the same token, people overcome it also, and they are able to be different. This being said, if we are always walking around expecting things, then we are always waiting for either disappointment or satisfaction. Is this the way we should live?

If we set no expectations, then it just seems to me we could have a lot more satisfaction than disappointments. I don't mean to be a pessimist, but sometimes we are better off expecting the worse than the better, and then things certainly will always seem better.

Either way, expectations really are an unnecessary evil. They just create troubles, and offenses. More people certainly would be able to get along better, if someone else didn't have to live up to their or our expectations!

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Yea, and if I be offered upon the sacrifice and service of your faith, I joy and rejoice with you all.

Philippians 2:17

Are you willing to be offered for the work of the faithful - to pour out your life blood as a libation on the sacrifice of the faith of others? Or do you say - "I am not going to be offered up just yet, I do not want God to choose my work. I want to choose the scenery of my own sacrifice; I want to have the right kind of people watching and saying, 'Well done.' It is one thing to go on the lonely way with dignified heroism, but quite another thing if the line mapped out for you by God means being a door-mat under other people's feet. Suppose God wants to teach you to say, "I know how to be abased" - are you ready to be offered up like that? Are you ready to be not so much as a drop in a bucket - to be so hopelessly insignificant that you are never thought of again in connection with 
the life you served? Are you willing to spend and be spent; not seeking to be ministered unto, but to minister?

 Some saints cannot do menial work and remain saints because it is beneath their dignity.


My hope for you is that you have had a prayer of salvation,
and if you haven't and you want to ask Christ into your heart and life,
then I offer these words for you to repeat,
but only if your heart is sincere,
because God knows it if you're not.


Dear God, I now know I have needed you and have
rejected your calling, so today, right now, 
I ask Jesus Christ to come into my heart and my life, 
and forgive me from all past sin and Lord cleanse me 
from my unrighteousness. I believe that Jesus was 
crucified for my sin, died, and was buried and rose from the
dead according to the scriptures. I want you forever more
to be my guide and I want to follow you as a believer. 
I ask for your strength to change my heart and 
my earthly ways so that I can become a better 
child in your kingdom. Show me how to depend 
on you in all things. And show me how to do 
your will in my life. I thank you and pray this 
prayer in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen!

Apr 18, 2009, 9:42 PM